Know your worth: Do not seek validation from anyone:

Know your worth: Do not seek validation from anyone:

Many people are living in bondage, but not the kind of “bondage” that you can see…instead, they are bound by the worst form of bondage…emotional bondage.

Rejection is the most painful of all the emotions; it is one of the deepest emotions we experience, as it cripples our self-worth, cutting deep and going straight to our core. Rejection can cause you to believe a lie about yourself and you can end up projecting it on other people. Rejection sends a false message to us that we are not enough, not worthy and ultimately keeps us bound. Little boyfriends do it to their girlfriends, it’s a devastating form of control…and until a person recognizes the presence of rejection in their life and deals with it…they will remain troubled by it for the rest of their life.

Are you in a bad relationship, showing your thirst and hunger for your little boyfriend’s approval and affection..., well I hate to break it to you that the more you crave it the more he will deprive you of it; and reject you. If he is giving you the silent treatment, going days without talking to you, its time you got to know that your much more worth than this, let that looser & an excuse of  a man you have go, block him out of your system.

Have been in this place before, it’s a dark place to be, would never wish it on anyone,  one of my little boyfriends, Kenneth,  in my mid 20s this guy made me lose myself worth, I began to believe I was a difficult person and hard to love. The thing about being rejected is if you’re not careful, you will begin to reject others…especially yourself.

When we get rejected, treated poorly, or someone blows hot and cold in a relationship with us, we often become stuck and fixated on that person. We become convinced that we’re in love and we try over and over again to prove ourselves, to show the objects of our affection, that we are worthy of their love and attention.

As you heal and forgive, you will realize that, hurt people, hurt others. They are critical of themselves, of others and of YOU. In order for them to feel good, they have to bring you down to where they are. Some people reject you because they have a problem, not you & indeed Kenneth had so many issues disturbing him… he projected them onto me and they became my problems too!  

The best part about being a believer is you also realize that you cannot get a person to satisfy a need that only God can supply. Are you looking for validation and acceptance from someone that isn’t qualified to give it to you in the first place? Know your worth, Know who you belong to, and you will never again look for a person to fulfill in you…what only God can do.

And also when you realize that you determine your worth, that you deserve more than just crumbs of someone’s attention and when you treat you in a loving, respectful way, others will follow your lead. You teach people how to treat you, so start treating you right. When you change the way that you feel about you, you will stop seeking validation and relationships from unwilling sources. Healthy people don’t sit around wondering why someone doesn’t want them. They are too busy living their lives.

At some point you have to let go, accept that things are what they are, see your little boyfriend for what he is, opt out of the crap, and be good to yourself. That, ladies, is true validation and understanding…of yourself.