If
you are single, Every Christian’s dating goal should ultimately be… Marriage.
Date with a purpose, not just to kill time. If you are entertaining toxic,
stale, or even dead relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship,
you are only allowing someone to fill a space that God has pre-selected for
someone else.
If
you are already married, the goal is to stay married forever. No do overs.
Don’t be so quick to bail every time you hit a rough patch in your marriage.
Christian Marriage Counseling can be of great help to you.
Respect: It is important that
both of you set boundaries and stick to them. I have blogged about setting
boundaries HERE. Check it out and set
healthy boundaries for your relationship.
Prayer: Pray for one another
every day and Pray with one another as well. Nothing says “I Love You”
better than praying for someone. If you are single, pray and ask for God’s
blessing in your relationship. Ask that His will be done. If you are married,
Pray a covering of protection over each other before leaving your home. Your
prayers should include asking the Lord to set guardian angels to war and
protect your home and your relationship. You have to fight for your
relationship … and the proper way to fight is with prayer. When you argue,
pray about it! Never get so upset that you feel like you can’t pray
with your spouse. In fact, those are the times when you need to be praying the
most.
Forgiveness: Don’t Hold Grudges. There
will be disagreements. I know it’s easier said than done, but forgive
each other quickly. The longer you allow an issue to fester, the more difficult
it becomes to move beyond it. Work on your issues. Talk about how they make you
feel and how they’ve affected you emotionally, physically, or spiritually.
Once you have made a decision to forgive, make a decision to leave the
issue in the past. Don’t wait for the perfect time to bring it up again.
Communication: Any relationship
requires communication. Don’t be afraid to voice how you feel and don’t be
offended when your mate voices how he feels. Just as long as it’s
done respectfully and in love. If you feel like your
mate is slacking or just feel that the relationship is just not what it used to
be, don’t be afraid to let them know. The sooner you address the issue, the
more likely it can be resolved. Avoiding the issue, doesn’t fix the issue. Keeping secrets,
hiding feelings, and being untruthful are the number one reasons relationships
fail. What’s done in the dark will always come to the light. Remember that.
Ministry: When you are in a
Godly relationship, people will notice, trust me. You won’t have to shout it
from the mountain top. You won’t have to brag about it. It will be evident by
the actions of you and your mate. People are watching what the two of you are
doing and most importantly, what you’re NOT doing. Be an example. Yes, being in
love is a BEAUTIFUL thing, but let’s not forget that you have an opportunity
to use your relationship for a greater purpose, to bring others closer to
Christ.
Faith: Faith should be the
root of every Christian relationship. When one’s faith is weak,
one may need to lift the other. Encourage your mate to
draw closer to God. A relationship should not distract you from God. If it
interferes with your relationship with God, there are definitely some changes
that need to be made. Attend Church
Together. Marriage is difficult enough without maintaining a commitment to
serve God. There are too many distractions and influences that will
hinder a relationship without God. Remember your wedding vows, “What God
has joined together”. Being close to God allows a couple to seek wisdom
and guidance in their relationship. It also provides a willingness to
allow forgiveness to play an important part of your marriage.
Understanding: Understand that God
created us all differently. There are going to be things that you will not
always agree on. That’s normal. A difference of opinion does not mean a
couple is not compatible. It just means that we all have different opinions. Maybe there will be
times when you can’t go out on the town because your mate is tired. Be
understanding. There will be other times. Maybe your mate is thinking about quitting
their 9 to 5 in order to follow a dream God has placed in their heart. Be
understanding. Compromising a little does not mean you are settling.
Loyalty: Next to God, your
husband is first. No one should come before him. He should be your best friend.
You shouldn’t go around telling another man when you are having problems. Be100%
faithful and loyal to him and pray that he shows you the same loyalty.
Love: There’s no greater
feeling than being loved. Love truly conquers all. The Bible says “Husbands are
to love their wives, even as Christ also loved the church”. It’s easy to
love someone when things are peachy and rosy, but the real test of love is when
things get a little shaky. Do you love them enough to stay and work it out or
do you run for the exit? Checkout my post on the love chapter HERE and I challenge you to practice it even during the most difficult times in your relationship or marriage.
I am praying for you and God is crazy about you!
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