Father’s Day without a Dad

 

“When I saw their fear, I rose and spoke to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people: "Do not be afraid of them; remember the Lord who is great and awesome, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives and your houses." Nehemiah 4:14

That’s the theme verse at my church, Watoto Church this month because it’s our #FamilyMonth and with Father’s day this weekend, the sermon last weekend was on “The Call to Fatherhood” as “the highest need in the world” Pastor said this and I couldn’t agree more- “Every person needs a good father in their life. We need them for the value they add into our lives. We all long for a Father, a good father: one who is available to us, encourages us, affirms us, believes in us, comforts us, corrects us in love and never gives up on us” You can get the rest of the sermon HERE.

I am very lucky that I grew up in a very good family, I had the best father, my siblings, cousins, uncles, aunties grandparents, will tell you that the late Mr. James Kasadha was the best father to his children, to us. Losing him was very hard on us, my entire family. And for me, I had scrapped off some holidays like Father’s day from my calendar, I just pretended it did not exist for the first 5 years, even when people all over social media and at church celebrated it, it will be 7 years on November, 29 and I have learnt to cope, I choose to celebrate the best father I will always know and will have to share the things I learnt from him when I have my own children.

Are you wondering how you will go through another Father’s Day without a dad, worry no more my dear, you have the best Father, our Heavenly Father, look to him, he loves you much more than you think or imagine.

♫ Oh and I've seen many searching for answers far and wide

But I know we're all searching for answers only You provide

Because You know just what we need

Before we say a word. 

You're a good, good Father… ♫ ‪#‎SingAlong

And below have shared some staff you can meanwhile do to celebrate your father and his legacy this Father’s Day;

  

Things you can do to celebrate your father and his legacy:

Do something he enjoyed: What did your father enjoy doing more than anything? Think of the things your father loved doing in his free time.  Was it a sport, game and a TV show? My father loved watching wrestling, I know so many wrestlers courtesy of the many games I watched with my father, he watched these wrestling games religiously. So this Father’s day like the past years, I will watch a wresting game, it’s my way of celebrating Father’s day. So Ladies, to commemorate you dear daddy, take the time to do the things your father loved this Father’s day. Do not let Father’s day pass you by just because you do not have a dad.

Just remember him; there are countless things you can do on this day to remember your father; Take a special father’s day card to his grave, now I know this could be hard for most people, but if you can handle it… go ahead, Blow some bubbles and send him your love on the wind, Have his favorite meal, Make or buy a new frame for your favorite photograph of him – what he was doing? Ask your grandfather if you still have one for his memories of your dad as a little boy, and/or your Mum for her memories of when she and your Dad met and you can also write him a letter or a poem or a song...Maybe you could start with something like ‘If you came back for just 5 minutes, I’d tell you....’ Go on gal, remember your daddy the best way you can this Father’s day.

Value the lessons he taught you: Most girls do not admit this but every single one of us, especially us that were/ are daddy’s girls, the most important thing to us is our father’s approval. It was for me when he was alive and still is, whenever I have those questionable decisions, I often ask myself questions like, what would my father think?  My siblings and I were really well brought up, and my father played a major role in our good upbringing and from what he taught and his actions, were are honest, compassionate, very hard working, peace makers, respectful, and we stick to our values. I am sure there quite many lessons your father must have taught you, and if for some reason, you have thrown them away, I argue you to pick them up again, practice them daily, it’s what your father would have wanted, so value those lessons this Father’s day.

Thank your Mother: If you were a daddy’s gal like myself, you probably didn’t have a lot of love for your mother like you did your father. But guess what my dear, daddy is no longer around, so how about you show your mother some more love and appreciation. She is now both your mother and father, it’s never easy playing both roles but if she’s doing it just fine, appreciate her. When my dad passed in 2009, I was in my third and final year at the University and we were also three of us at the University, my mother very well knew that our father was big on Education, so she has worked hard to see  us through school, we are  five(5) kids and four (4) of us have graduated from the mighty Makerere University with Honours, my baby bro our last born, must have been in S.2 at London College of St. Lawrence when our dad passed but he will also be done with his Software Engineering Degree soon, his going to his third year of his four year course in August this year. Did I also mention, my dear mother paid for my Masters Degree, I graduated last year with MAPAM from Makerere University. So trust me I have a lot to thank my dearest mother for this Father’s day for playing both roles. I am sure our daddy is proud of her.

And most importantly, remember this, losing a father for one could mean losing a husband for another, so it is just as hard, if not harder, for her on days like these. So, please take the time to respect and love your mothers on this day, just as you would have your fathers.

I am praying for you and God is crazy about you.

 

RIP Daddy: Missed by Mum, Me, Enid, Aggie, Phiona, Samuel, grandson Jayden, Relatives and in-laws.

Happy Father's Day