Where the Boys are:

I enrolled for Masters at Makerere University in 2012 with mainly two aims, to get the Masters but to also find my Mr. Right, I remember telling my girlfriend, Ann, “I’ve to find a man in my Masters class” I hadn't been in a relationship for at least 4 years and was so excited to go out & find him. Did I find him...? I found someone, a counterfeit, not my Mr. Right. So single Ladies, are you busy spouse hunting? Enrolling for Masters, every advertized certificate hoping to earn ur self  a Mrs. Degree, are you attending every party, invited or not with the hope of finding a man, you’re even going to church, all these fellowships around town weekly, instead of being there for get more of His fire like Bishop T.D Jakes says, you’re there to find good men, I see you have even joined all church activities, and you now have all the phone numbers of the potential guys, busy watsuping, taging them in your tweets just so they can notice you.

And sweetie, am not against socializing, have fun and get involved in activities that involve men and women but be sensitive to your motives and just like Proverbs 16:2 says “All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord”  So sister gal, trust me, you shouldn't go hurting, as long as you put your trust in God, He will lead and direct you to your mate, and he will be in the most unexpected place, the place where you're not even looking. God does not honor our logic, but He does honor our faith in Him to meet our needs.

Our Heavenly  Father, has a good sense of humour, its just so funny how He instead used this counterfeit I went hunting for in Graduate school, two(2) years later to lead me to a place where I would find God’s best for me, I found my him at Watoto, a church I vowed I would never attend much less give a second look to a church boy, I always hated church boys. God led me to this special man, I like to call him my favourite person, he isn't a church boy, he is the true definition of a godly man, his example led me to fully surrender all to Jesus. He leads me more to God than to himself every single day and I am so grateful to God each day for him, he is such a blessing, the very best gift, God always gives us His very best and most times, it's not what we expect, but it's always the very best.

Sweetie, God knows your desire for a husband, He places these desires in us and all we have to do is trust Him, and be obedient to his leading, “What i say is this: let the Holy Spirit direct your lives and you will not satsfy the desires of the human nature” Galatians 5:16

Ladies, just look at how the love story of Ruth and Boaz began. Three widows, Naomi with her two daughters-in-law, Orpah and Ruth, have just been through the painful experience of losing the men they loved. Since the two young ladies were young widows, Naomi encouraged them to return to their families where they each might find another husband. “…Go back, each of you, to your mother’s home. May the Lord show kindness to you, as you have shown to your dead and to me. May the Lord grant that each of you will find rest in the home of another husband” (Ruth 1:8-9)

Naomi lovingly pointed Orpah and Ruth in the direction of possible prospects. She actually encouraged them to go in a direction where they could each find a husband. Orpah followed Naomi's advice, she gave Naomi a kiss good-bye and headed “where the boys are” most of you today are taking the same route as Orpah loitering around, hoping to find Mr. Right in all the wrong places, but gal, be very careful whenever you find yourself in the presence of “available men” Orpah’s style of going after the available men which is unfortunately the norm today, is just the wrong path at all levels.

I would like to urge you to have faith in our living God, like Ruth, she chose to trust God with her future. And God providently directed Ruth to the field of Boaz. God rewarded Ruth’s faith with a husband who was a pillar of strength. Would Ruth have ever found a godly husband to be united with if she had also returned to Moab. So sweetie, your hope cannot be put in some dreamed-up future. It must be in God who knows your past, present and future, and loves you enough to give you the very best.

God has not lost your address, your circumstances and geographical location do not threaten God’s will and purpose. Just as he brought Eve to Adam, Rebekah to Isaac, Ruth to Boaz, and someday the Bride of Christ to Himself, He will one day bring Mr. Right to you. Your location or your occupation may not make you very accessible to available godly men, but these roadblocks do not handicap God. Wait on Him, seek His kingdom, will and plan for your life, He always delivers His very best to us at the right time.

I hope these scriptures can encourage you, claim them as you pray and believe God for your mate;

“Search in the Lord’s book of living creatures and read what it says, not one of these creatures will be missing, and not one will be without a mate, the Lord has commanded it to be so, he himself will bring them together” Isaiah 34:16

Then the Lord God said, “it is not good for man to live alone, I will make a suitable companion to help him” Genesis 2:18

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife and they become one” Genesis 2:24

“Seek your happiness in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires, give yourself to the Lord, trust in him and he will help you” Psalm 37:4-5

“You have given him his heart’s desires, you have answered his request” Psalm 21:2

I am praying for you and God is crazy about you.