Here are the reasons you should never stay friends with your Ex

Here Are the Reasons You Should Never Stay Friends with Your Ex:

I have never been friends with an ex, nor do I want to be. Every time I see my best friend casually texting with her exes or catching up with one over dinner, I can’t help but ask: do we really have to stay friends with everybody?

 For anyone who’s ever gotten out of a serious relationship, you know that ending it isn’t the hardest part — the hardest part is knowing it’s over. Knowing that the whole relationship and every aspect of it is just gone. That is what has you sobbing on your couch or getting your pillow wet each night and sleeping all your weekends till your back pains. And after a few days, you start feeling lonely. Yeah, you have your girlfriends’ support, and yeah that guy is a total jerk, but you miss that jerk. You think to yourself, I can still text him. He can still be in my life. It will be okay. But NO. You can’t do that, and this is why.

You’re not moving on

Moving on can mean healing, getting back to yourself, pursuing your own interests, loving yourself again, having good boundaries. To others it could mean finding someone new and forgetting about your ex completely. Whichever way you define it. one thing still remains,the allusion of you being “just friends” can be a risky business it becomes impossible to move on from him. 

How can you move on from something you never let go of? Are we just clinging to the ghosts of your relationships and disguising them as platonic instead? Ask yourself when befriending your ex—do you have an ulterior motive? If you think a friendship is the easiest way to get the scoop on your ex’s new love life, or are looking to hook up.

Here are some of my uplifting quotes about moving on:

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”
-Albert Einstein

You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore”
-Christopher Columbus

Do not be friends with that ex, it’s unhealthy for you and you’re only prolonging your heartbreak.

It is unfair to your current or potential relationships

Exes can make a great safety net. They know your favorite foods, your bra sizes, your favorite ice cream, music, all your likes and dislikes. So do not keep them around, if you’re in a new relationship, fully commit yourself to it. Keeping them around will feel like you are comparing everyone new in your life to what you had with your old flame. Remember: it didn’t work out with him for a reason.

You have seen one another naked and love it

Okay I know some of you do not love it (that naked ex) and its disgusting even thinking about it but why should you risk it, I mean we’re all human, you never know what lie he will cook up to get you in bed with him so why risk it, it’s not even worth it. And again some people believe that if you accidentally brush hands and then maintain eye contact for a few seconds too long with someone you’ve seen naked, you have to have sex with them.

Chemistry is very real, rare, and usually doesn’t go away. Why would you want to keep that kind of sexual tension around, if you claim to have no intentions of acting on it? Because you are lying to yourself! You want to act on it! Geeze…..

You’ll feel so much better when you finally get over them.

Once you come out of your little cave and look at the world without him, you’ll wish you had done it sooner. No more worrying about what to say to him and what his really thinking about you or does he miss me, too.Do not torment yourself, he is not worth it and when you cut him off, it’ll be like walking into pure freedom, my friend. I promise.

On a positive and completely self-conflicting note, staying friends is possible. Not likely, but possible. For all of those who have achieved this feat without getting scorned, kudos to you! For most of us, though, it’s better to just move on. The process can be difficult, but you’ll get there, and you’ll love it.

Good luck