Here is why most Christian Girls are still and remain Single

Here is why most Christian Girls are still and remain single:

I do not have many Christian girl friends and but from our interactions with the few, most of them desire a husband, a Christian, a Godly man but most of them are nearing their thirties and thought they would be married by now, Engaged or in a committed relationship but are not  and are on the verge of ‘settling’!

Problem is the older women they seek advice from are also not married; they tend to comfort them with stories of how they should not settle for less because God would want more for them. Most are even 40 years old, single and are not even looking to settle until God brings their Mr. Right. I am sorry friends but never in my sane mind will I seek advice on relationships from such a woman, even if you’re an elder in church. A colleague at work was telling me how they have women between the ages of 35-45 in their church that are still single. I am sure these women have met potential suitors but sent them away and responsible for being single at that age. So below are the reasons these 35-45 year olds and most Christian girls are still single;

They want Jesus…not a disciple of Jesus…but Jesus Himself:

Many Christian girls are looking for the perfect guy. They want someone who is going to complete them and be their everything! If this is you, then my question to you is this: If a man completes you and becomes your everything, then what position is Jesus taking in your life? Jesus is the one that completes you and is meant to be your everything. So, to look for completeness in a man is to make that man an idol in your life, it is to have put man above God! This will only lead to ruin because no man is perfect! Try as he might, he will disappoint you! So stop looking for someone who will not disappoint you over the lifetime you wish to be married…you will not find him. Even you, yes you…have and still disappoint many people…whether you realize it or not…whether you meant it or not. Instead of looking for perfection, look for someone who is striving towards perfection. This is a person that loves God and does not want to be conformed to the world but whose life’s purpose is to be transformed into the image of Jesus.

So my fellow Christian sisters, if you meet a person who is perfect, run away, for you will make imperfect whatever is making that person seem perfect.

 They see themselves as princesses; they do not care to prince their man:

There are many women who see themselves as awesome and incredible royalty. Many women say, I want to be treated like a princess! The issue is that they do not want their man to be a prince. They do not want to share any power or give up any control. Instead, they want their partners to take the position of a slave while treating them like a princess. The reason many women cannot let go of control is because of fear perhaps due to not dealing with the hurts of past relationships. The moment the man does not give her the power she craves, she takes it as him not treating her like a princess and so searches for greener pastures. On the other hand, many men see that while they are giving all they have, the woman is not following suit! Many women think that this is part of being pursued; many men simply see it as being disrespectful.

As a princess, you have to make sure you prince your man. Compliment him and let him know that you appreciate that he is being led by the King. Let go of the control. Taking a chance at love means you take a chance with your heart. This is because only the heart can feel love, not your head.

Christian girls like being pursued but do not want to be caught:

In the bible, the servant of Abraham went to a land far away in pursuit of a wife for Isaac. When he got there, it was Rebekah that came to the well. When he approached, she did not play games and dilly-dally. No, she said that she would not wait as her family had requested but would follow Eliezer immediately back to Isaac. When Boaz pursued Ruth, Ruth decided to show her interest by laying at his feet. See, both Rebekah and Ruth showed interest. They did not play games or play hard to get.

Ladies, if a prince has found you, then admit it and go forward as long as you have God’s blessing. I am not saying be easy, but at the same time, do not play hard to get. Just as you are a gift to him, he is also a gift to you! If a man is pursing you, do not run him away with games.

Christian girls are way too picky:

Most of you love God but don’t want Him to decide who you should marry you want to decide who to marry by yourselves. In essence, you’re telling God “forget about who you desire for me, this is the person I want to marry…now make it happen!  So it is no longer God’s will for your life but your own will for your life!

But does God not want to give us the desires of our heart? Yes…as long as it glorifies God. In fact, the scripture says: delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. As you delight yourself in the Lord, you will find that His desires become your desire…thus your desire will glorify God!

You must believe right now that what God wants for you is better than what you could ever want for yourself in the long run. If he is not giving you your hearts desires, it may be because you are not ready to handle your heart’s desire or because what you desire is not desirable!

Most Christian girls want a Boaz but want to remain a Delilah:

It’s obvious most of you have met many potential suitors! But every potential suitor you have met had some flaw that was fatal. One could not provide. Another could provide but was not attractive enough. The third was attractive and could provide but did not pay you enough attention. Yet, another paid you too much attention. You forget that you’re filled with flaws yourself! Most of you are so busy finding fault with everyone that you have no time to look at your own self. You’re so busy trying to find the speck in someone else’ life, you forget that the log in your eyes is blinding your vision of the truth about yourself. The truth that just like everyone else, your imperfect and need a savior as well!

Most of you cannot understand why the one’s you think are ‘perfect’ for you are not interested. Girlfriend, perhaps it is because they are not willing to ‘settle’ either.

I thank God that he did not wait for us to be perfect but settled for us. He wants us to settle for nothing less than Himself. This means that we have to take the reins off our own lives and surrender completely to His will. It seemed that Joseph settled for Mary when he married a pregnant girl…but He became immortalized in history because of it.

Are you willing to settle for God’s best for you?

Food for Thought: Maybe I cannot find Mr. Right because I am wrong in the way I see relationships