Is Mr. Right Taking His Time... What do you do as a Single Christian Woman?

Is Mr. Right Taking His Time…What do you do as a Single Christian Woman?

This is my second year since I recommitted my life to Christ, my testimony and how I decided to rededicate my life is a story for another day. One thing I can say out loud on any roof top is that I am fully devoted and I love Jesus, returning to Him is the best decision I ever made.

Well, are you a single Christian woman and the Mr. Right you praying for daily and fasting for at least once each week is taking his time. At least I am sure every Christian girl would like to get married, and, like most young women, you dream of marrying your best friend, loving him the rest of your days, and sharing a family, life, love, children, and the happiest and saddest of days with the man of your dreams. 

So there is that single, Christian, Godly, and wise man at your church or in your cell group that you have been eyeing for a long time now. He looks like Mr. Potential and you like him. But maybe he’s shy, and maybe it looks like he might be very s.l.o.w. to ever make that first move. Yeah, s.l.o.w. most sisters always say that the brothers are SLOW but I do not think they are, they are just patient, everything in due time sisters.

The waiting and uncertainty during this time is hard, this is a very important phase in our lives, so below is some encouragement as you wonder and wait for your Mr. Right;

1. Trust the Lord. Wait on the Lord. Pray, Pray and Pray some more. PRAY. Ask God for a spouse. Tell Him your desires, and ask Him what to do. Seek counsel, but seek your Father’s counsel most of all. People are quick to give you their opinions based on a man-made perfect love story, and that perfect love story may or may not be God’s will for your life. Be quiet and still and spend time fasting and praying before God. A good friend that I like to call my sister, Anita Aliyinza has a moving testimony on praying and fasting for Mr. Right, the Godly man. The entire story is for her to tell but all I can say is God answered her prayer. She encouraged me to do the same, pray and fast, so I picked out a day in a week to do this, you can join in my Christian sisters.
2. The dream is good, honorable and God-given, inspired by an understanding of God’s design of marriage. Your desires are good.  Are you stalking him all over social media, (Facebook, Twitter, Watsup, Snapchat, etc…) Hebrews 13:4.
3. Caution, don’t be the Ecclesiastes 7 woman about whom Solomon has warned your young man. Solomon tells Mr. Potential that he’s discovered that the woman whose heart is snares and nets and whose hands are chains is more bitter than death. He warns him that a sinner will be captured by this kind of woman. do not be a manipulative, conniving woman who does not wait on and trust God, and from whom a godly man will escape. Ecclesiastes 7:26 Instead, be the 1 Corinthians 7 girl who is concerned about the things of the Lord, pursuing what is pleasing to the Lord by being holy both inside and out (spirit and body) 1 Corinthians 7:34.
4. Christian sister, don’t forget that purity and holiness are not out of fashion with God. They are out of fashion with the world or may be with your friends, but holiness is important to God. 1 Corinthians 6 reminds you that if you are God’s, then your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you and that you are not your own. You have been bought with a price. So, glorify God with your body. If you have sinned and have not been holy both in body and spirit, then confess it to God, repent and turn from your sin, and seek His help to serve Him. Praise God for the blood of Jesus that covers all our sin.

Okay, what do you do about that shy, cute, godly, sweet, brother that you like;

• Ask God to turn the heart of Mr. Potential towards you. Pray that God would give him a love for you and by the time he asks you out, he will be head over heels for you.
• It may not feel this way, but time really is on your side. As you wait for that starry, romantic moment to burst forth, waiting and observing is good. You may look back one day on this moment and just shake your head, thanking God that He knew that Mr. Potential wasn’t your Mr. Potential after all. Our problem is usually that we run ahead of God and try to go arrange a lot of things to “help” God get it all together. Waiting, in this instance, is usually a good thing.
• Another thing to pray is that God would make Mr. Potential bold and obedient to God if God is leading him to pursue a relationship with you beyond just friendship. We all want to see that guy stick his neck out for you, girlfriend. Watch God make him a bold, determined young man once he is convinced that God is leading him your way. I promise you, you’ll love him for it more than you ever thought you could.
• Don’t be the pursuer. Make him do it. If he’s already a good friend of yours and you need or want to call him, that’s great. Give him a call. Text him on Watsup, Viber or Facebook. But you should know when you’re crossing that line and are going that extra mile since you’ve got that insane crush on him. So, my friend, back off and don’t try to manipulate the guy or God. 
• My sister, HE. IS. ABLE. God is able and willing to bless and help and guide. He doesn’t need your help, and He really means it when He says that He “is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think,” and He will do a work in your life that is worthy to bring praise to His name (Ephesians 3:20). Your future may or may not include Mr. Heart-Throb-Potential, but remember what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 2:9 about God’s plans for those who love Him:

“Things which eye has not seen and ear has not heard, and which have not entered the heart of man, all that God has prepared for those who love Him.” You have a bright future, and so do I.

Hang in there, girl. I’m praying for you today.