Reasons you should stay far away from Men with Kids

This is a deal-breaker for me, yes, you heard me right. I don’t date men with kids.  The thought that this man will be tied to this woman for the rest of his life gives me some really negative energy and also the kid or kids will always come before I do, and they should, they are just kids. But why should I settle for that. Dating men with kids takes someone very selfless and someone who is good at compromising her precious partner time. Personally I like to come first. Not second, not third, not last. First.

I have dated one and I almost got married to another but I had learnt my lessons from the first experience, so I run…and I must admit there is a lot of merit to men with kids. I don’t deny that at all.  They are usually more mature and responsible and have their shit together because they have to. They are also more affectionate from what I’ve experienced.

I always say Never say Never, because anything’s possible BUT for this one, I will have to say, I will never ever date or marry a man with kids. Why should I settle for less than I know I want and deserve. I’m sure you have some deal-breakers as well … some of them might even offend.  We like what we like and it’s time to be proud of who we are and what we want.  Be true to you.

Here is why you should not date these men with kids;

1. Baby Maama Drama: Most breakups where children are involved always have drama, and why would you settle for that I don’t want to deal with someone else’s baggage.  Why should I limit my choices? Settling for something that I know won’t make me happy.  I really don’t want to play evil stepmother. Someone else’s kids shouldn’t be my responsibility.  I don’t hate kids, I love kids, I just don’t want to deal that’s all.
2. He didn’t marry his baby Maama, what makes you think your special, I remember the first guy I dated that had a kid, he used to say all sorts of bad staff about his baby maama, gave me all sorts of stupid reasons why he would never be with her or marry her, maybe he thought it’s what I needed to hear, but he was wrong, it was a great turn off for me, if your dating an excuse of a man like the one I did, it’s time to Run, Yes do run, do not just walk away, Run… I am a Christian girl, I believe sex is sacred, and if it has brought you a gift of a baby, do not look away, make it work with that woman, Marry her and ladies do not go around trapping men with pregnancies just so he can marry you.
3. If you date a man with children, you can never expect to come first. I’m a rational person, so I realize that a man’s children should and will come first. But this creates a conflict because I want to feel secure and wanted in a relationship, but if I demand greater importance than his children, then I will come off as an insensitive bitch. Why should I even settle for this?
4. Viewed as the evil woman that took their daddy away: I am lucky to have grown up in a good home, my parents had a great marriage but I also have friends from broken families, where their fathers have taken on other wives, they have step mothers and most of them resent their relationship and view their step mothers as the evil woman that took their father away from them and their mom. If you date a man with kids, then you will inevitably be deemed the hated stepmother. You’re too young and cute for this title, and no one needs a complication like this in a relationship.

There are still some few good young men left out there; your husband, the man God has for you will find you when the time is right, all u can do now is pray for your future husband & wait. Do not embark on a deadly relationship with baby issues, you should heed my warning and save yourself a headache and heartache.