If you Love him, let him go

If you Love him, let him go

If he leaves and you love him, you have to let him go. I know we have all heard this saying before, but it’s so true. Even if it breaks your heart, it’s better to have your heart broken now, believe me it will be much better to get over him now than let many years go by. If it’s meant to be it will, trust me on this, I have seen it over and over again with myself, friends, and so on.

Just do not sit there waiting for him to come back, and sweetie, if you wait too long, the sun will keep setting and rising and you will have not moved on. I’m not saying he won’t ever come back. Maybe he will. Maybe he won’t. I do not know your situation or your outcome. But if he has left you, you have to let him go. You have no other choice. He made his decision. He could have stayed. And he didn’t.

Men leave for basically 5 reasons I can narrow down.

• They no longer love you or want to be with you.
• You have a fight.
• They are just confused, maybe not sure, and need time alone to think it out.
• They want to cheat or are cheating.
• They are just jerks, they were with you to see what or how far they could get.

Like i said, do not sit back and wait for him, Go out and have fun, do not freeze your life because of this. I know it’s hard to have fun, but act like you are, you will have it sooner than you think. There are so many nice places to hang out in Kampala, you could even go hanging upcountry with friends for a weekend. Just do not go to the same places your ex boyfriend frequents every weekend, even if you went there, stay out of his corner. But also Kampala is small, so if he sees you out having fun and he still loves you, it’s going to hurt and bother him big time. So even if you’re broken hearted and crying inside, he doesn’t know that, put on a brave face and have your fun.

I know they say fight for what you want, BUT if what you want doesn’t want to be fought for…DO NO FIGHT.. why fight a battle you can’t win. Look I know it sounds all romantic and right to say I fought for him with everything I have, I did that once, showing up at his place un announced trying to fight for him, it doesn’t work, it will only make things worse, okay may be I do not know your situation or your man, but he isnt as nice as the one I know, i called him my saint, but even saints have limits, Don't they? Anyways, from experience, It doesn’t work, he won’t even respect that. LET HIM GO…

Any Relationship in this day and age is hard, and if both parties aren’t willing to fight for what God has brought together then LET IT GO… It is true that any door that God has opened can’t be shut BUT God doesn’t force us to be in relationships, actually he doesn’t force us to do anything… what He does give us the chance…if a man doesn’t make it work… sorry sis, GOD ISN’T GONNA FORCE HIM, YOU HAVE TO JUST LET HIM GO…

Ladies, if he leaves you for another woman, then you really have to be tough. Block him out of your mind all together. Every time you think of him just focus on something bad about him and something good about yourself, or think of the most gorgeous man alive, even if you think he is at that time, there are others.

Many times men will leave for a fling and want you back, let’s face it, some men just cheat, and sometimes you can never ever change this, even if you’re with them for years. That is up to you, but at all cost, never, ever, follow him, call the other woman, Let him go, as much as it hurts, don’t call him. Don’t ride by his hangouts, or his place, just let him go. Many times these are just flings and once he realizes this he will want you back, it’s up to you if you want him back, but many times that’s all it is, the grass is always greener on the other side, they think. You have to have the best lawn……..and you do! Maybe just not his type…

He will come back, if he doesn’t, you don’t want to make a fool out of yourself chasing or calling him. Just leave him alone and see if he misses you. If he really loves you, he will, and he will call you. There is nothing worse than a woman running around chasing a man that doesn’t want her, then his ego gets talking and not only is he bragging to all of his friends, but he is putting you down to other women.

It is hard ladies, but if he doesn’t want you there is nothing you can do to change it. Some guys just need a break, and when they are away from you, they will realize how much they miss you and how much you mean to them. They will come back to you if that’s the case, if not, it’s not, leave it be, cry and move on. There is plenty of fish in the sea. It’s not a good feeling to be with someone not knowing if they really love you, or his with you because he feels bad from your crying and begging. If they do not really love you, you don’t want them anyway, and never settle for second best, if you feel your being used, or if he only comes back because someone else doesn’t want him, tell him, to take a hike.

If a man wants to go let him and do not sit around waiting for him to come back…He’s not sitting around waiting on you. No he’s out living and loving…so it’s your turn, go live and love…DO NOT LOOSE YOURSELF IN A MAN. Men are TEMPORARY and GOD IS FOREVER…God will fix your broken heart and eventually it won’t hurt anymore and you will move on…

Check this podcast out on the Watoto Church Website, 

http://www.watotochurch.com/media/audio/6Mar16_ToHealBrokenHearted2.mp3 it changed my life, It was well delivered by Pastor Brian Abaho (Pastor Watoto Church-Kasanga). God healed my broken heart the day of this sermon and Pastor Julius’ (Pastor Watoto Church-Downtown) prayer at the end of the service turned everything around for me.