I have come to believe that this is
the best season in a person’s life; I know some of you are already screaming
and wondering if I really know what it means to be single and the loneliness
that comes with it. Yes my dears I do know, I am not a relationship girl, I
hardly get into relationships and I chose to be single, it’s now close to 4 years
so I know what it means. I spent the first two years after a bad breakup
wasting my life away, drinking, smoking and living a purposeless life looking
for fulfillment from people that would not give it to me, and then something
happened that changed my life around, I found the fulfillment I searched for
from my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. It’s
been two years since I recommitted my life to Jesus, I made a commitment not to
give my heart to any other man, but wait for God’s best for me and the next guy
I will give my heart to will be my future husband and that will be after God
has showed me that he is really my husband.
So whether you just got out of a long
term or short term relationship, or there people all around you asking you why your
such a catch and still single, frequently reminding you of how the clock is
ticking for you, do not be moved by any of these comments, I want to urge you
to forget the pain, sweetie, there shouldn’t be any pain whatsoever in your
heart just because you are single, it’s just for a season. And remember that whenever
God takes us through a challenging time, we can endure the pain if we cling to
the hope that in the end we will discover that it was all for a purpose. Just
as Jesus Christ “For the joy that was set before Him endured the cross” Hebrews
12:2. God does have an ultimate purpose in mind for this solo season of your
life.
There
is so much more to life than just finding a relationship. God does have so much
more for you in mind during this season of singleness than just learning the
art of misery and impatience. I will share a few things on how you can be
single with a purpose.
Live your single years
entirely focused on Jesus:
the best time to serve God and grow spiritually is during this season of
singleness. God may need you to serve Him in such a way right now, where all
your energy, time and attention need to be devoted to what He’s calling you
into, So serve at your local church, your community, etc. Ladies live fully and
radiant each and every day, drawing fulfillment and joy from your passionate
romance with Jesus Christ. Do not be consumed with making yourself more appealing
to the opposite sex; instead be consumed with your heavenly Prince. Let Jesus
be the focus of your existence and source of fulfillment. He should be in
control of your life, be truly surrendered to Him and allow Him to lead. And
when you allow Christ to be your joy, peace, security, your everything, things will
radically change for you.
Pray for your future
Husband: praying for your
future husband is one of the most important things you can do for him during
this season of singleness. Payer is powerful and paves the way for both of you
to come together in God’s perfect timing. When you pray for your future
husband, you are speaking life into your marriage even if you haven’t meant him
yet. You are speaking blessings and healing over him that will help to prepare
him to be the man that God has called him to be. Prayer connects him to you in
love. Your prayers can save him from falling and encourage him when he desperately
needs it. You may not know what he is going through at the moment but your
prayers could be what saves him. So my dears, getting praying for your future
husband, speak life over him, rebuke chains that would try to keep him bound,
pray for God to reserve him. Do this every single day, the most important thing
is to speak from your heart and be led by the Holy Spirit on how to pray for
him. God will give you discernment on how to pray for your husband.
Stay pure: set your life aside as a priceless treasure,
keep polished and pure for your future spouse. And just so we clear, purity is
not just about abstaining from sex till your married, its more than that, living in purity means
allowing the spirit of God to overtake your life to the point where you are no longer
living to feed the selfish cravings of your flesh. It means being far more
consumed with honoring God and your future husband than with fulfilling the
demands of selfish desires. We can all stay pure, mind, body and spirit if we
choose to do so. Whether or not your future husband remains faithful to you,
choose to do so and remember, Christ gave himself for us as His Bride, even
when we had gone astray and turned to other lovers. If you love your future
husband the way He loves you, you will set the stage for a marriage that rivals
the greatest love stories of all time. Purity is not something we are required
to live out on our own strength. If Jesus is the central focus of our lives. He
provides power to be victorious in areas we would fail on our own, seek Him. This
is what you can tell all those guys, the counterfeits pursuing temporary
relationships with you. “I am already taken, until God brings my future husband
along and I know he is the one, I am not available.” So ladies, tuck your
treasure safely in the hands of God, not to be retrieved until God shows you
its time.
Prepare practically: Have shared in so many posts on this
blog on how you can prepare to be a future wife. Take some time out and check
out those posts. Ladies just know that your season of singleness is for a
reason and only for a season. Live a Christ-like life. Do not seek approval of
the Ken’s and Ashley’s of this world, simply honor and love God. If God wants
you to be married, He will pick out the husband for you, you do not have to go
looking.
Your future husband deserves all of
your love, he deserves a wife who will love him, stand by him. Wait on God for
him. When it gets lonely and hard, write love letters to him, this will help
keep you on the right path until you meet him.
Waiting takes courage and patience, it
means putting your present desires aside for something greater down the road,
it means forgetting the world’s ideology of love and embracing the divine love
that God wants to give you. The wait is always worth it. Trust and see what God
has in store for you.
I am praying for you and God is crazy about you!
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