Avoiding Counterfeits Boys

A counterfeit is a guy whose outward appearance is a façade. It is hard to discern who he really is because of the “makeup and costume” he wears. What he appears to be physically, socially, and even spiritually is just a performance. We have all met these counterfeit guys; the beauty is that it’s very possible to avoid such a clown. Setting high standards and convictions will help you recognize the difference.

Before any girl accepts her first date, she should have established in her heart and mind a biblical alternative to this century’s dating style. As a prerequisite to every date, you should examine your motive. Are you going out with this guy because you haven’t had a date in years? Are you going out with someone who may not really be a Christian because you think a date, even with a counterfeit, is better than no date at all?

Many women spend time with guys who don’t really care for them. They would rather waste an evening with a counterfeit than face another lonely night in a dateless condition. Some women even give up their biblical convictions in order to get a date with a certain guy. Do you feel as though you allow your dating schedule to determine your personal worth? Many single women are prisoners of the world’s dating syndrome. They equate their self-worth with how many dates they had last month.

Have you dated more counterfeits than the real deal (Boaz, Joseph, David)? If your answer is yes, you may need to develop higher ideals. Develop a list of biblical dating standards and put them into practice. Write them down, carry them both in your wallet and your heart, the counterfeits will flee.

Wait for the right man God has for you. Do not settle for anything less than God’s best. And if you feel that wait is hard, look at the following, do you believe you can change any of these characteristics in your future husband?

• Unwillingness to communicate (Proverbs 14:10)
• Dominating ego (Romans 12:3)
• Argumentative characteristics (Proverbs 20:3)
• Difficulty in apologizing (Ephesians 4:32)
• Bad language (Ephesians 5:4)
• Unwillingness to be involved with church (Hebrews 10:24-25)
• Inability to keep a job (1Timothy 5:8)
• Jealousy (1 Corinthians 13:4)
• Self-centeredness (2 Corinthians 5:15)
• Depression (2 Corinthians 4:16)
• Unwillingness to give (2 Corinthians 9:7)
• Always “going with the guys” (1 Corinthians 15:33)
• Wandering eye (1 Thessalonians 4:2-7)
• Lying (Ephesians 4:25)
• Immaturity (Ephesians 4:15)
• Workaholic tendencies (1Timothy 6:7-11)

What does the Bible say about these qualities in reference to godliness?

I am praying for you and God is crazy about you.