Damaged Goods:

There is nothing like enduring consecutive shitty days be that-weeks, months or something even years to make us feel like damaged goods. Every bone feels broken, unable to be repaired as we begin to convince ourselves that we’re better off being stored away amongst piles of other useless junk. We’ve all been cut in many ways, some deeper than others, but what is important is that when we get cut, we heal, when we bruise, we heal, when we break, we heal. And much like the restoration that takes place on our outer existence, the same rebuilding is possible for our inner beings.  All of our lives are far too short to be lived as if we’ve passed our expiry date.

When my friendship with Mr.JN, the most wonderful guy have met was growing, It was a whole new experience, he was so different from all the men had dated in the past and even though I had just re-committed my life to God and I had a lot of learning and growing in Christ to do, which meant to live up to 2 Corinthians 6:14-17 and Joshua 23:12-13, had actually never imagined myself in a thousand years to be with a guy like him, he is the complete opposite of the guys had dated or imagined myself to be with.

Yes I feared dating fellow Christians because of my past mistakes, I used to feel like damaged goods, and i truthfully felt like “I am not good enough” for him, this guy has the highest level of self control have ever experienced, he is such a good guy, and I didn’t think such good men existed, he has never smoked like me, drank, purity is important to him and he really loves Jesus. I had never been intimidated by a man till I met him and this is why I keep telling you that the really good men, the godly men that are worth waiting for do exist, I know one and I am so sure there some few left out there.

I thank God daily that he brought this wonderful man into my life, he put up with all my short comings, believed in me, supported me  to make wise choices that honor God and also made me realize and reminded me that I am not damaged like I thought I was “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come!” 2 Corinthians 5:17.  And I am glad to say that I don’t allow my past to influence my future, I am a new creation in Christ. 

Do you feel like you are damaged good, I want to tell you today that you’re not, whatever you did in the past doesn’t count anymore, repent and turn away, “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us” Psalm 103:11-12 You may think it’s hard but it is quite easy, I have done it. It only takes a simple step, a decision. And I also want you to know that there is no cycle that cannot be broken, your destiny is not something that is left to chance or fate, it’s the product of wise choices. Just so we clear, you cannot make wise choices without proper biblical convictions.

Set your standards so high, allow God’s Holy Word to shape your perspective. Give the Lord permission to renew your mind on a daily basis spend time searching the Word of God for standards that will guide you safely to God’s best. (See Romans 12:2) What I can tell you is that if you have none Christian friends, they are going to try to let you lower your standards but do not give in sis, facing opposition from the people you love is not easy but the Lord will give you the grace to refuse to compromise. Through Jesus’ strength you can stand firm.

Cut off the negative Nancies in your life, if you have friends, colleagues at work that make you feel like crap, the kind that drain you, make you feel empty and distant from yourself. It sucks that a huge part of feeling like damaged goods are often feelings that are passed on from others. My sister, it’s time to say good bye these negative Nancies in your life; you deserve to have some positive people in your life, friends that will encourage you and not tear you down.

Learn to guard your heart, I have blogged about it here. “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life” Proverbs 4:23. Some of us have been left broken because of failure to guard our hearts, we move too fast in relationships saying words like “I love you” to the guys not out of a committed love but a casual love feeling. Learn to let real love blossom and grow without those three words. Why don’t you save them to be whispered when God reveals it is time, give meaning to those precious words, do not use them on every junk that is playing nice to you just to get into your pants and then break you. And also stand guard when you hear sweet talk from these counterfeit men of today, do not let his “sweet” words that don’t hold any water make you surrender.

If you ever felt like or someone made you feel like you are damaged goods, you are not, and you’re a child of the most High God, filled with possibilities.  Now do your part; shake off the guilt, quit listening to the accusing voices, and move forward with your life. If you do this, I believe and declare, God will bring greatness out of a great mess. He will make something significant out of your life. God will not only restore you, but He’ll bring you out better off than you were before.

I am praying for you and God is crazy about you